The Love Bombing Christian Today
I’m currently writing to you all from a broken and misguided heart. Human love is very fickle. It’s almost like a light switch. Have you ever heard of the term ‘love bombing’? According to WebMD, yes, WebMD, it’s ‘an emotional manipulation technique that involves giving someone excessive compliments, attention, or affection to eventually control them.’
Should I traumatize you even more? Here are some of the signs:
1.) Over-the-Top Attention
They shower you with constant texts, calls, or DMs — even when you barely know them. You feel like you’re the star of a one-person fan club.
2.) Excessive Compliments
“I’ve never met anyone like you.” “You’re perfect.” “I could marry you tomorrow.” The compliments sound dreamy but also… a little rehearsed.
3.) Fast-Tracked Intimacy
They’re dropping “I love you” within days, or already planning your wedding before you’ve finished your second latte together.
4.) Lavish Gifts and Grand Gestures
Expensive presents, surprise trips, or overwhelming acts of generosity — all way too soon. It feels flattering but also kind of rushed.
5.) Demand for Constant Contact
They want your attention 24/7 — and guilt-trip you if you’re busy. “Why didn’t you text back right away? Don’t you care?”
6.) Future Faking
They talk about your shared future nonstop: kids, houses, vacations — but there’s no real foundation yet. It’s all fantasy, no substance.
7.) Over-the-Top PDA (Public & Private)
They want everyone to see how “in love” you are, even if you’re not there yet emotionally.
8.) Discomfort When You Set Boundaries
If you try to slow things down, they act hurt, offended, or accuse you of not being serious.
9.) Inconsistency After the Honeymoon Phase
Once they feel you’re “hooked,” the affection may suddenly drop, leaving you confused and craving the old intensity.
What does this have to do with my seemingly broken and misguided heart? Well, everything.
I met a guy. Cute, funny, Christian. Long story short, we talked all day, all night, and then I got the boot text of ‘I-can’t-do-this-anymore-sorry-find-someone-else-you-deserve-better.’
UGH!!!!
After three pints of Ben and Jerry’s and listening to secular music about breakups, I wasn’t mad at him.
No.
I was angry at God. I mean, sure, the guy had some mental problems and incorporated Buddhism in his prayers, but nothing was impossible with God, right?
He would say good morning and good night to me without fail. Keep in mind, he lived in a different time zone than I did. We would text up ideas of meeting me and fantasies of us probably getting married afterwards.
So does the pain of rejection hurt? Yes. Does the sting of the unknown hurt? Yes.
I was clearly spiraling out of control. The worst part was that I couldn’t hear God’s voice, though he was still there in the background. A verse I kept hearing was James 1:16-17 (NIV):
“Do not be deceived, my dear brothers and sisters. Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.”
WRAP-UP: Narcissism is not a trait of God. Love and patience are. My discernment was at an all-time low, and because of that, my heart was on a doomed collision course. Don’t be like me. Do not be deceived.
Verse 2 Meditate: James 1:16-17 (because why not?)
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